The time of separation can be associated with complex feelings of loss and grief. It is usually at this exact time that parents are expected to make very important decisions about parenting moving forward. What household will our children live in? How much time will they spend with me and with the other parent? How are our children expected to transition into this completely novel arrangement? The resolution of parenting arrangements after separation can often be a complex process, not least of which because the idea of having to give up any time with a child can be an extremely daunting prospect when a person is already experiencing the grief and loss associated with the breakdown of their relationship with their former partner.
Separated parents usually attempt to organise their parenting arrangements via discussion, compromise and through participation in dispute resolution, such as mediation. Of course, this is a requirement under Part VII of the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) (the Act), save for a handful of exceptions outlined at section 60i(9) of the Act. Where parents can reach agreement, these are usually documented through a parenting plan or a binding agreement made by the Court (known as Consent Orders).
Fundamental to the dispute resolution process in relation to parenting, is the ability for separated parents to put aside what their individual wishes might be in relation to the care arrangements of the child, and to put the child’s best interests and developmental needs above their own. Sometimes traditional models of family dispute resolution and mediation do not fit the needs of separated parents and their children. It might be that Child Inclusive Mediation would be a more suitable process for these families to partake in. A Child Inclusive Mediation provides the opportunity for the child to express their views to an independent third party- views which might not otherwise be expressed within the confines of the family dynamic.
A Child Inclusive Mediation usually involves you and the other parent, and the child (or children) separately attending upon a qualified child expert or specialist for the purpose of an interview. This child expert is usually someone who has tertiary qualifications in child psychology and oftentimes will be dually qualified in family law. They will ask subtle and non-confrontational questions to adduce the child’s views on the arrangements and ascertain any effects of the separation on the child/children.
The parents will then attend a mediation separately. It is important that parents understand the child (or children) will not attend this aspect of the Child Inclusive Mediation. The child expert may act as mediator as well, provided they have the requisite qualifications, or will remain in attendance with the mediator to provide insight into the children’s views throughout the mediation process. The child expert will usually convey what the children have told them in their private sessions, provide an expert opinion on this, and identify any potential pathways forward. It is hopeful that the parents can then come to a parenting arrangement which takes into account the child’s views, in a very safe and child focussed manner.
Not every family dynamic is suitable for Child Inclusive Mediation. The Family Law Act provides that the Court can have regard to any views expressed by the children when determining what Orders to make. However, for really young children, how much weight can the Court attach to their views? For adolescents or late teens, the weight the Court would attach to their views would likely be much higher. A Child Inclusive Mediation, might be very helpful if you have children who are of an age where they can clearly express their views and wishes. If you believe your family may benefit from Child Inclusive Mediation, or you are considering whether this is a suitable process for you, do not hesitate to reach out to our team of experienced family lawyers here at Robinson + McGuinness Family Law.
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Author: Lauran Clifton